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Shed your protective armor of perfectionism and start living a calmer, confident and more connected life.
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A blog for perfectionists & overachievers
As a perfectionist, your life probably looks amazing (even perfect!) on the outside, while on the inside you may be struggling to keep it together.
Perfectionism affects every aspect of our lives.
Our minds:
the need to overachieve
constantly feeling overwhelmed
putting a lot of pressure on ourselves
trying to do it all and rarely asking for help
avoiding conflict/people pleasing
fear of failure keeps us from trying new things
it's usually "all or nothing"
often feeling stuck
our best isn't good enough
overthinking/overanalyzing/procrastinating
Our bodies:
always busy because resting is "lazy"
unable to relax until the to-do list is done and feel like we've "earned it"
eventually numbing out by over-shopping/cleaning/drinking/exercising/Netflix bingeing
ignoring stress signals in our bodies
anxiety/depression
illness/insomnia/disease
Our relationships:
on edge
shutting down
feeling disconnected
lack of meaningful friendships
afraid to be vulnerable and really let people in
resentment when our needs/desires aren't being met
not listening to our instincts or trusting our gut
others feel like they need to be perfect in order to gain our acceptance
If this sounds like you, I want you to know you are not alone. I know you because I AM YOU.
Let's peel away the protective armor of perfectionism.
Hi! I'm Emily & I'm so glad you're here!
It took me hitting rock bottom in college to realize I could no longer measure my self-worth from the outside and that happiness comes from within.
For over 25 years I have been chipping away at my protective armor of perfectionism through mindset shifts, behavioral changes and tuning into the messages my body gives me.
I used to operate with tunnel vision, zeroed in on my to-do list and always busy trying to do more and be more.
Now I move through life calmer, more present and with greater self-awareness.
I want to share my strategies for battling perfectionism and create a community where we can support each other as we journey toward living The Simple Life where we feel at the deepest level that we are enough just as we are.
No one is perfect. We know that. As perfectionists, we try to protect ourselves by creating an illusion of perfection.
Our environment or circumstances didn't allow us to feel calm in our minds, relaxed in our bodies, and confident in our instincts and choices.
We feel unsettled or stuck, but we pretend that everything is great and we've got it all together.
Over time, the pressure we put on ourselves to maintain the image of perfection takes a toll on our health, happiness, and relationships.
Perfectionism, overachieving and people pleasing has been our body and mind's way of trying to keep us safe.
Safe from what? Safe from uncomfortable feelings.
It's easier to look and act like everything is great instead of admitting, feeling, and working through the reasons why it's not.
But maybe operating like this isn't working anymore.
Maybe you're starting to think that instead of keeping you safe, your perfectionist tendencies are actually keeping you from living your best life.
Maybe you want to feel calmer, more confident and more connected in your relationships.
Maybe you want to start thinking about yourself and not always putting everyone's needs before your own.
Maybe you're exhausted and want more balance in your life.
Maybe you want to break the generational cycle and show your children a different way of living.
But you don't know how or where to even start.
Let me explain.
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You already have everything you need to start living the life you want and deserve.
You don't need to do more or be more. You don't need to fix anything.
Change is possible.
You can start really living your life and not just managing it.
You can effectively express your needs, opinions, and desires- because they matter.
You can be your own best friend and learn to love yourself from the inside out.
You can be more connected to the people in your life.
You can feel confident in your abilities and decisions.
You can learn how to listen to your body and trust your instincts.
You can give yourself permission to slow down.
I have spent the last 25 years chipping away at my protective armor of perfectionism, but I believe that true healing occurs through connection.
It's time to put yourself first. Stop putting off your own happiness or waiting for the "perfect" time to start creating the life you deserve to live.
From the day you were born you have been worthy- worthy of truly loving yourself for all that you are and for being loved for all that you are.
You don't need to hide behind the illusion of perfection anymore. A calm, confident and more connected life is on the other side.
And you don't have to do it alone. We're in this together!
Join me!
My promise to you
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Healing occurs through connection. Unfortunately, as perfectionists, we tend to hide. We’re great at listening and helping others but find it hard to share our own struggles.
Let's build a community where we feel safe to embrace our imperfections and inspired to grow and evolve. Are you in!?
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My husband and I have been married for 20 years.
My Italian grandmother introduced us!
We have 2 kids (Mia & Anthony), and 2 dogs (Duke & Buddy)!
I have been practicing law for over 20 years. When my kids were little, I worked part time and have been back full time for about 5 years.
I love to run, especially on the boardwalk!
Cape May, NJ is my happy place! We went on our first date there, got married there, and hope to retire there someday.
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